You’ve been struggling with heartbreak long enough. Stop numbing, avoiding and denying your pain and start feeling better.
Stop Suffering From the Pain of Your Broken Heart and Finally Start Healing.
If you’re ready to learn the valuable recovery tools I discovered from my own experience of a crushing heartbreak, read on:
I know these awful feelings firsthand.
I’m Patty Blue Hayes, the award winning author of Wine, Sex and Suicide – My Near Death Divorce and today, a life coach on a mission to help people like you move through the pain of heartbreak in as healthy a way as possible. I didn’t do that and my broken heart almost claimed my life.
I didn’t know who I was without being my husband’s wife. When he said with such clarity, “I don’t think we should be married anymore,” my heart almost stopped beating. I knew he meant it. He moved out 5 days later after our 17 years together and I was left feeling abandoned and broken.
If you’re feeling like I did after my husband left, you may be feeling anxious, confused and in despair. You’re not eating or sleeping and your mind is looping the same sad thoughts over and over.
You might not have been given a real answer as to why he left and you feel blindsided and in shock.
Even if you've been stumbling for months and feel like the pain will never go away, you can feel better despite your circumstances.
I know it doesn’t seem possible to imagine you’ll ever get past the feelings of loss, unworthiness and fear. You might feel like you’ll be frozen in this state of sadness and despair forever – because your life has changed forever.
I wanted to heal and transform into one of the happy women staring back at me from the starting over section in magazines, women who seamlessly gallivanted past their severed marriages to start amazing businesses and take up exotic hobbies . . .
But that wasn’t my story.
If you’re like me, you might have good intentions to heal and evolve but may be using sex, drugs and rock and roll to escape the pain. Too much shopping? Rebound relationships? It’s time to put an end to all of that.
In my 17-year relationship and marriage, I was too dependent on my husband for my feelings of worth and value as a human being and as a wife. When he left, I felt broken.
He was my whole world and it crushed me to think I failed as a wife, that my husband was so miserable with me.
Having your spouse walk out and tell you, “I’m not in love with you anymore,” is a soul-crushing blow like nothing I’d ever experienced.
I’d been through the deaths of my parents; I thought certainly I could get through my divorce. But it was an entirely different kind of loss. And when the pain from rejection and betrayal became too great to bear, I tried to end my life.
You may have even had those thoughts but you’re too ashamed to tell anyone.
And so you feel even more alone . . .
That no one understands what you're going through.
But no one should go through heartbreak alone.
I was seeing my therapist twice a week but after I left her office I went back to the same thinking and the same drinking to avoid my feelings.
I was doing some good things, like volunteer work, but I didn’t understand how to really take charge of my healing.
But I kept moving forward, determined to get past the pain. One of the most valuable things I can share with you is this:
You have to go through the pain to get to the other side of it.
Why didn’t my therapist tell me that? And why couldn’t she have told me how to identify my emotions using the emotional guidance scale and give me ideas on how to express my feelings and release them?
You might be feeling like the awful emotions will stay with you forever and so you’re afraid to allow them to come to the surface. But you know what? Emotions are a lot like the clouds in the sky, they change from moment to moment. And as you’ve learned, nothing lasts forever.
Well, that is true, your life circumstances have changed. The question is how are you going to respond to that change? There are two kinds of changes we go through in life, those of our own choosing and the ones we have no control over. We certainly don’t like those very much. But are we going to let those changes define us?
Yes, I plopped myself on the couch and watched mindless television, trying to block out my worry. Yes, I was numbing out with alcohol and trying to prove I was a desirable woman by bringing home strangers. But gradually, I started to make progress.
I had backslides, plenty of them because I was a bit directionless without a plan and I didn’t know then what I know now.
I don’t want you to be one of the ones who spins in circles day in and day out for months and months without feeling any better at all. I’ve seen this happen too many times.
People will tell me how miserable they are, how empty, alone, anxious and confused ~ but when I ask if they’ve taken action to feel better . . . . sadly, the answer is no.
I can’t state this clearly enough:
No change = No change
If you don't take any action at all to change your thoughts, beliefs and actions, things will stay the same. You'll have the same fear of the future, the same sense of unworthiness, the same anxiety and the same despair.
My heart knows if you're reading this, you may have collapsed to the ground in gut wrenching pain, sobbed until you had no more tears and spent many nights without sleep. That was me. And I felt so alone. I don’t want you to feel as alone as I did and I want to give you a good solid set of proven practices that you can bring into your daily life and start to feel better.
All of the 12 practices in the program I crafted were gathered up along my very bumpy path of healing my own heartbreak.
These practices came from my personal healing journey and my study of people like my mentor Mike Dooley and teachers like Pema Chodron, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Napoleon Hill, Mary Manin Morrissey, Caroline Myss, Gabrielle Bernstein, Danielle LaPorte, Deepak Chopra, Abraham Hicks, Teal Swan, Les Brown, JB Glossinger, Eckhart Tolle, Joseph Murphy, PhD, Louise Hay, Don Miguel Ruiz, Joe Vitale, Sonia Choquette, Christie Marie Sheldon and many others.
I received formal Life Coach training and went on to become a certified facilitator of the self empowerment program, Infinite Possibilities, created by NY Times Best Selling author Mike Dooley, who is also known for his part in the movie, The Secret.
Of course I don’t recommend listening while you’re driving as there are meditations and journaling exercises, but you can always listen to the session and do the exercises later.
ASKING FOR SUPPORT
EXTREME SELF CARE
FEEL, EXPRESS AND RELEASE
GRATITUDE AND PERSPECTIVE
CREATE A FILTER
CHANGE YOUR ENVIRONMENT
MEDITATION AND MINDFULNESS
YOUR SOUL SELF
FIND A SUPERHERO
THE MIRROR TECHNIQUE
There’s no reason to struggle through each day aimlessly, feeling like you just can’t wait for nightfall so you can go to sleep and not think about your ex and how your life has changed.
Even though your life circumstances have changed, and you might feel powerless because it wasn’t your choice, the power you have is in making this decision: How are you going to deal with it from this day forward?
From what I’ve learned having been through my own experience and talking with many women, the biggest mistake we make is to turn a blind eye to our healing thinking that the passage of time is the only thing that will help.
You can’t change what happened but you can choose how you deal with it.
“Patty's Healing from Heartbreak program came into my life at the perfect time. Her practical guidance helped me feel supported and provided immense affirmation for what I was experiencing during emotional turmoil. I feel stronger, more at peace, and more centered, thanks to Patty's amazing program."
“From worrier to warrior. My brain was in a place of confusion and loss of focus. The fact that these are audio really made the difference! I can't tell you how many sleepless nights I spent listening to Patty. Even if one single thing sticks and resonates with you, it's well worth the cost of admission.
One hundred thousand worries spin through my head after the break up, was I good enough. Was I pretty enough. Was I listening to his needs and mine. Is the sex better with her? Do my kids like her more? What happened to us? Where was I during all this ?!?? How did I not see this coming?
We can listen to that patten of worry or we can take Patty's perspective. Listening to Patty when I couldn't bear my own thoughts gave me practical actionable exercises. One changing thought at a time happened over the course of this audio blog. Then lo and behold... I became whole with my own thoughts. I processed and I knew there was a life beyond my precious thoughts.”
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You are the only one who can make the decision to take action. Reading this won’t change anything. Purchasing the program won’t change anything. It’s only by actually listening to the audios and doing the exercises that things will start to change. Even when you don’t feel like it’s helping – you keep doing it because that’s the benefit of practice; we get better.
Think about how many more days, weeks or months do you want to go on feeling just like you are right now as you’re reading this? I numbed out with alcohol and bedmates.
We might overwork, fooling ourselves into believing that keeping busy is a good thing when the truth is, not dealing with our feelings is the worst thing we can do.
At some point your health might even be affected and then you’re ultimately forced to face the emotions you tried to stuff with shopping or sex or jumping from one toxic relationship to the next.
Why wait until the stress has taken a toll on your physical or mental health?
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You are fully protected by our 100% Satisfaction-Guarantee. If you don't feel any benefit from these practices by the end of the 12 weeks, just let us know and we'll send you a prompt refund.